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Booking a Gay Massage: Complete Guide

May 21, 2024

Exploring Gay Massage – Gay massage offers a personalized and inclusive experience designed exclusively for gay men.

Skilled male masseurs provide these massages, which can be enjoyed in a range of settings, including specialized gay spas or more discreet massage centers.

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If you are looking for a Gay Massage we’ve got your back.

Our guide to gay male massage etiquette is based on advice from therapists in our network, and it covers everything you need to know before, during, and after your massage to make sure you’re fully prepared.

Booking the right masseur can be challenging, so we’ve compiled some helpful tips to help you find the perfect gay massage therapist for you.

Once you’ve found the perfect masseur, it’s essential to know how to behave before the gay massage. So, let’s go over some good practices together to make sure everything goes smoothly.

If you’re interested in finding a gay massage but don’t know where to start or are feeling nervous, we are here to help. We’ll provide you with everything you need to know to make an informed decision and have a positive experience.

The Ideal Gay Massage: A Guide to Musts and Don’ts

Do – Book Early

When booking your massage, it’s important to schedule your appointment well in advance.
This not only ensures that your massage therapist has ample time to prepare for your session but also sets the stage for a relaxing and unhurried experience.

Avoiding last-minute bookings and cancellations shows respect for the therapist’s time and schedule. If you do need to cancel, especially if it’s close to the appointment time, consider compensating the therapist.

This gesture acknowledges the potential loss of income and inconvenience caused by the sudden change, and helps maintain a respectful and professional relationship between you and your therapist.

Remember, while you are purchasing a service, you are also engaging with a professional who deserves consideration and respect.

Do – Ask for Pictures 

When seeking a massage therapist, it’s completely appropriate to request photos in advance, especially if you have specific preferences regarding their appearance or physical attributes.

A massage is a deeply personal and physical experience, and feeling comfortable with your therapist, including their physical presentation, can significantly enhance your overall experience.

If the provided photos don’t meet your expectations or don’t adequately represent what you’re looking for, feel free to ask for more.

Clear and honest communication about your preferences helps ensure you find the right therapist for your needs.

Additionally, providing feedback about the photos can be constructive, as it may prompt the therapist to update their images, ensuring they accurately represent themselves to potential clients.

Do – Take a Shower

You are going to have someone rub your body, make it pleasant for them.

Taking a warm shower will also loosen you up and open your pores for the massage oils to be easier absorbed so you can really get the benefit from the massage.

Some masseurs will allow you to shower at their studio.

Do – Arrive a bit early

10 minutes early is about right. You want time to relax, use the restroom, (shower if possible) and get comfortable with the space.

It’s better to be early than late. Being late will put pressure on your therapists and yourself to meet your needs and ultimately distract from the experience.

He wants to please, let him.

Do – Keep Your Phone on Silent

Unplug, relax and let go. If you have to keep up to date with something on your phone then it’s just going to take away from your experience.

It’s important to be and remain present and that is very difficult with a constant chime or buzz.

Do – Feel Free to Tip

You don’t have too. In fact your masseur will have decided upon their price very carefully and will not be remotely offended if you don’t tip.

Do – Communicate

Feel free to have a chat before you get started. Your masseur might ask you a few questions anyway and it will help you both feel more connected and help you let go.

It’s important that you communicate with your masseur to say what feels good and what doesn’t. Just be honest about what you want, pressure, areas and exactly how you want things to go.

It is your massage.

Do – Tell the Masseur What You Thought

The best case scenario is a long-lasting relationship with a gay masseur who knows how your body works and is someone you can trust.

If the pressure is too much or little, you have certain problem areas, you enjoyed some of what they did more than others tell them!

And why stop there. Pass it on online with a stellar rating and review.

Reviews help your gay therapist and attract new clients.


Don’t – Turn up Sick

If you are feeling under the weather just sit your session out, get healthy again and reschedule.

If you cause your masseur to get sick, they can’t work and before they know it they can pass it on to all of their clients.

We draw the line at gratuitous reasons. If you just want to see anything 18+ then you are not in the right place. A Masseur is not an escort nor should be treated as one.

But if you feel the masseur went the extra mile tip what feels right.

10 – 20% is a good rule of thumb.

Don’t – Try to Get A Deal

A heads up on prices or rates is great.

Requesting a discounted rate is not the one.

Massage Therapists earn their money through plentiful experience and providing a premium experience. If you are getting a massage from the same masseur every day then you might want to broach the question, otherwise keep it to yourself.

You are only going to make both of you uncomfortable.

The Price is the Price. But you are not buying a product but a service. Just like in a high class restaurant if you feel like your experience was greater than what you paid for then feel free to show it with a tip.

Don’t – Ask for sex

All our masseurs are highly trained or licensed professionals and are here to provide premium therapeutic services. If what you want is just to get off, Gay Massage isn’t right for you.

Our masseurs take pride in their craft and are here to help you relax and unwind in style.

If you find yourself aroused and want more, remember that a listened masseur can loose their licence if they “help you” with that.

Don’t – eat, drink, or smoke

Before your massage starts, be kind to your body to ensure you get the most out of your session. It’s best to avoid eating a large meal right before your massage since the physical pressure can be intense.

However, make sure to stay hydrated, but avoid drinking too much water just before as it may interrupt your session.

Keep the cigarettes out, the massage can accelerate the absorption of toxins into your body and the smell of smoke can be unpleasant to your therapist and upset the relaxing atmosphere they’re trying to create.

Alcohol or drugs are also a no, as you will be numbing your body for the experience.

Don’t – Worry about your Body Reacting Naturally

You are supposed to be letting go of control. Your body will act however it wants to and your Massage therapists are experienced, and know how to deal with all of this and keep you feeling comfortable.

Don’t worry about passing gas during a massage, your therapist will ignore it.

If you have a lots of gas, or need to excuse yourself, do.

If you fall asleep? Great.

An erection?

Just let it be, you haven’t offended anyone, so nothing to worry about and the masseur will be the same. 

A masseur works with bodies all year round, they will be more empathetic to you than almost anyone else.



With this you now know how to move forward with your male massage therapist and get the best gay massage possible. 

By following these simple do’s and don’t you will be able to ensure that you both can feel comfortable and that you get the most out of your best gay massage.

And as a final takeaway, communicate. Don’t be afraid to ask and do say whatever is on your mind.

And when you have a wonderful experience this might turn into man, many more over the years to come. But it all began with that first great gay massage.

We also invite you to check out our Gay Masseurs in other cities.

Massage Styles and Benefits


Each style of massage offers a unique experience, addressing different needs and preferences. This guide is crafted to help you understand and explore the various options available, ensuring a choice that resonates with your personal wellness goals.


Swedish Massage

Begin with the classic. Swedish massage is akin to a gentle, nurturing embrace for your body and soul. Ideal for those new to massage or seeking relaxation, it involves soft, long strokes, combined with kneading and light tapping. This style is perfect for unwinding, stress relief, and promoting a general sense of well-being.


Deep Tissue Massage

For those with chronic muscle tension or engaged in heavy physical activity, Deep Tissue massage offers a more intense experience. This style reaches deeper layers of muscle and connective tissue, addressing knots and releasing deep-seated stress. It’s not just about physical relief but also about creating a space where the body can begin to heal from ongoing strain.


Sports Massage

Tailored for athletes and fitness enthusiasts, Sports massage focuses on areas of the body that are overused and stressed from repetitive and often aggressive movements. It blends deep and vigorous massage techniques to enhance performance, prevent injury, and speed up recovery.


Thai Massage

A unique blend of massage and passive stretching, Thai massage is a full-body experience. It’s an interactive form of massage that combines stretching, pulling, and rocking techniques to relieve tension and enhance flexibility and circulation. Often described as both relaxing and energizing, it is like performing yoga without any work.

Additional Techniques:

  • Acupressure and Shiatsu

    These techniques focus on specific pressure points in the body, aiming to release tension and promote energy flow.
  • Reflexology

    This involves applying pressure to areas on the feet, hands, and ears, believed to correspond to different organs and systems of the body.
  • Ayurvedic Massage

    Originating in India, this technique uses traditional herbal oils and involves a holistic approach to rejuvenate both body and mind.


Aromatherapy and Hot Stone Therapy

Enhance your massage experience with these complementary therapies. Aromatherapy involves the use of therapeutic essential oils to promote healing and a feeling of well-being and relaxation, while Hot Stone Therapy uses heated stones to relax and massage sore muscles.

Comprehensive Benefits of Gay Massage

  • Physical Well-being

    Regular gay massages can significantly improve physical health. From alleviating muscle pain, and boosting circulation, to enhancing joint mobility, the benefits are multifaceted.
  • Emotional Comfort

    These massages offer a safe, inclusive space where individuals can find comfort and a sense of belonging, crucial for emotional health and self-acceptance.
  • Mental Clarity

    In the tranquility of a massage session, mental stressors fade away. This mental decompression is essential for maintaining an overall balanced lifestyle.

Personalized Experiences

The beauty of gay massage lies in its customization. Each session is tailored to the individual’s specific needs, whether it’s focusing on certain muscle groups, adjusting the pressure, or incorporating a preferred massage technique. This personalized approach ensures that each experience is as unique and individual as the client.

In essence, the world of gay massage is a celebration of diversity and individuality, offering a spectrum of styles and benefits tailored to meet the unique needs of the LGBTQ+ community. It’s more than a treatment; it’s a journey towards holistic health and harmony.

Preparing for a Gay Massage Guide

This thorough information will assist you in getting ready for your session:

Before the Massage

1. Research and Choose the Right Therapist:

  • Look for a certified and experienced therapist whose approach and style resonate with you.
  • Consider specialized gay massage therapists who understand and cater to the LGBTQ+ community.

2. Understand Different Massage Styles:

  • Familiarize yourself with various massage styles (like Swedish, Deep Tissue, Sports, or Thai) to decide which suits your needs.

3. Schedule Your Appointment:

  • Book in advance and choose a time when you can relax without rushing or having to immediately jump back into daily activities.

4. Prepare Your Body:

  • Hydrate well before the massage, but avoid heavy meals and alcohol.
  • Take a warm shower to relax your muscles and arrive clean.

5. Consider Your Comfort:

  • Think about your comfort levels regarding undress and communicate these with your therapist.
  • If you have sensitive skin or allergies, discuss the use of oils or lotions beforehand.

During the Massage

6. Communicate Openly:

  • Before starting, discuss any specific areas of discomfort or pain with your therapist.
  • Communicate during the massage if the pressure is too much or if you feel discomfort.

7. Relax and Let Go:

  • Try to clear your mind and focus on the sensation of touch and relaxation.
  • Remember, natural body reactions are normal and your therapist is a professional.

After the Massage

8. Take Time to Relax:

  • Allow yourself a few minutes to get up slowly and dress after the massage.
  • Drink water to rehydrate and help flush out toxins.

9. Reflect on the Experience:

  • Consider how you feel – physically and emotionally – after the massage.
  • Feedback for your therapist can be valuable for future sessions.

10. Plan for Regular Sessions:

  • If you found the massage beneficial, consider regular sessions for ongoing well-being.

11. Monitor Your Body’s Response:

  • Pay attention to how your body feels over the next few days.
  • Sometimes, the full effect of a massage is felt only after a couple of days.

Additional Considerations

  • Mindfulness and Mental Preparation: Engaging in a brief meditation or breathing exercise before your session can enhance your relaxation and openness to the experience.
  • Respecting Boundaries: Understand and respect the professional boundaries of the massage therapy session.
  • Safety Measures: If you have any medical conditions or are taking medication that could affect your massage experience, inform your therapist.

By following these guidelines, you can ensure a fulfilling and rejuvenating gay massage experience, tailored to your personal comfort and health needs.


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